Today I got news I was expecting, but I have to be honest – it sucked to get it. To see it in the face literally just killed me, even though I agree with the news.
Hello, Zach
My name is [redacted] and I am a pregnancy counselor at Bethany Christian Services [redacted] office. I am working with Katelyn Kenitz who feels that adoption is in the best interest of her expected child. I would like to have an opportunity to meet with you and talk with you about the adoption plan and answer any questions that you may have. Please call me at [redacted] so that we can schedule an appointment. I am usually in my office from about 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, but of course we are closed for the holidays. Today I am leaving a little early.
The only picture I have of our daughter... at about 4 weeks
I knew this was coming, but to send it via an email is so insensitive – and then how it was worded was so insensitive. It seems like no one cares what my needs are in this process. It sounds like Katelyn has developed a plan and im just being informed as a courtesy.
I feel like a damn sperm donor.
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Hi Zach,
It wasn’t the news I was hoping for and I can understand that you’re feeling a bit down about it all. At least part of the reason has to be the whole “united front” thing.
You and Katelyn obviously need to sort things out between yourselves and you need to stop flip-flopping over depression issues. If you can get past that and present a united and stable front, then things will be much smoother.
I’d suggest that the two of you request that you be kept in touch with your child. If you’re nice about it – particularly BEFORE the adoption, then you’ve got a good chance of it happening.
Zach, you have a child. Nobody can take that from you. If you know who your child’s adoptive parents are, then once you get your life back on track, you can at least see your child grow up.
Hang in there!
Katelyn has a guardian, so it’s likely not her plan at all. Since she’s under guardianship, her rights as an adult are non-existent.
However, YOU have a right as the father of the child to get involved. Go to that meeting, and exercise that right! Perhaps, at the very least, you can arrange things so that you can be involved with your little girl’s life.
Don’t give up hope. From what I’ve seen, you have a lot of people keeping you and your daughter in their thoughts and prayers.
Make sure that this person knows that Kate is under a guardianship order and it might reveal who is really making the call at Kate’s end. Who knows? They might just get involved on your side – even though it is agreed between both parties that adoption is the way to go.
You’re definitely in my thoughts, mate. Keep punching for what you believe in!
You know Kate loves you, as do I my friend. THese are the words and actions of her guardian. WHo is definately stepping outside her legal grounds. I believe you have more than enough ammo to start fighting this guardian. She is abusing her power.