The following screenshot is from my facebook account. It serves as an example of what hurts me everywhere I go.
Just waiting 10 minutes for church today I saw five pregnant woman, the worship pastor playing with his daughter at the piano and a whole bunch of families with kids. This hurts enough, and what hurts even more is the fact that I have to go through this pain all alone. I wish Katelyn could be here to hold me right now, I’m crying just typing this. I don’t wish this pain on anyone.
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i wish you didn’t have to go through none of this alone i know it has to suck. i wouldn’t wish none of this on my worst enemy so i wish there was something i could do to make everything better for you so you wouldn’t have to go through this alone. it hurts me to see / hear about you going through this. i wish i could be there for you as your friend i would if i could. but you live all the way in kzoo and with me having no way to get there it is hard plus i don’t know exactly where you live. i do wish that you felt a lot better but i know the only way you would feel better is if you hade kate and your daughter there or at least kate. i hope everything will work out for you. so i can hear you are doing better.
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“Maybe if you straightened up, and started acting ‘normal’ in most peoples eyes, something could be worked out.”
I have seen some people claim that it’s anti-Asperger’s for people with Asperger’s to try to act “normal.”
I have even seen some people claim IRL that it’s anti-Asperger’s for people without Asperger’s to try to act “normal” (for example, reading someone’s social cues and treating that someone as if s/he means what s/he says and does) instead of pretending they have Asperger’s (for example, ignoring someone’s social cues).
“Maybe if you straightened up, and started acting ‘normal’ in most peoples eyes, something could be worked out.”
And maybe if you understood the situation from reading this blog, you’d know that what’s going on here is basically an epic failure of the system to get Zach the support he desperately needs. Maybe if you understood the situation, you’d know that the problem cannot be solved by simply “straightening up”…that those in service-providing roles are the ones who need to ‘straighten up’ so that they can help Zach do likewise. Maybe you’d also realize, the error of asking him to ‘act normal’ (I’m reading that as meaning to pretend there isn’t a problem?).
The powers that be in Zach’s area have basically been trying to put a bandaid on gaping wound, and it seems rather unreasonable to me to expect him to pretend the gaping wound isn’t there.